Grief & Loss
The Healing Process: Anticipated Versus Sudden Loss
Sudden or shocking losses--due to events like crimes,
accidents, suicide, or sudden heart attack--can be traumatic. There is no
way to prepare. No time to say good-bye. These losses can challenge your
sense of security and confidence in the predictability of life. You may
experience symptoms such as sleep disturbance, nightmares, intrusive
thoughts, feelings of isolation, or anxiety.
Anticipated losses--like a terminal illness-may give you more
time to prepare for the loss. You will have a chance to say good-bye and
clean up unfinished business with the other person. The actual time of the
death will still have an emotional impact, but if you have used the time
prior to the death to begin to grieve for your loss, recovery after the
death could be faster and easier.